Might be an excellent name for a band. Sadly it is a state of being that is common place.

Too many of us play the Drama Hook. The games goes like this. 

Your life is a constant drama. If there is no drama, you create it. Then you get to bask in the story of the drama of your life, a story that cycles on repeat with only time frames, contexts and character changes. The energy hit comes from the endless attention you get from the drama.

The Drama Hook is a close relation to the Pity Pit. If you love the Pity Pit the tragedy of your life requires everyones pity. 

Both the Drama Hook and the Pity Pit require at least two players. The one in the drama or Pity Pit, and the one that feeds them to stay there.

If we track the energy inputs and outputs it goes something like this.

DH/PP takes energy from the story of the drama. They build a parasitic relationship with the person/people caught in the web of the drama.

The prey are often energised by rescuing/saving/being in servitude to the DH/PP.

The cycle is self feeding.

It is not easy to see the cycle. To know you are either in the web of the drama, or the person living drama and pity as a way of being.

Questions you might ask to determine if this is relevant to you.

*How much drama is in my life or the life of my friends?

*Do I love drama in general. Gossip, trashy magazines, reality TV?

*Is my sense of my own value increased when I help/rescue/save someone?

*Is there any part of me that is the victim? Word of warning…the victim is extremely cunning, and will hide in very dark places, directing the traffic of your life with the skill of invisibility.

If you have Drama Hook and Pity Pit people in your life, very strong, very loving boundaries are required. 

If you live the Drama Hook or Pity Pit consider that it might be time to write a different story, one that allows you to be the source of your own energy, your own direction. Circumstances irrelevant.

*There are many legitimate victims of drama in life. Many of them choose to not sink into the story of their drama as an energy source. Rather they use the drama to elevate their being. To live the Drama Hook and Pity Pit is a choice. It has little to do with circumstance.

Photo taken January 10th 2020

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About Christine McDougall



As the Founder and Chief Steward of Syntropic.world – Christine works with leaders and enterprises globally who have a commitment to being the pioneers of enterprise change. Christine has the ability to completely re-imagine business, its role in our world, and its potential for a future for all humans. She experiences a deeper level of truth than most through applying synergetics (Buckminster Fuller’s anticipatory design science) and the working laws of Universe to enterprise design and human co-ordination. She has a way of articulating this so others can see it as well. Christine questions the most basic assumptions that drive our complex systems and can map that back to what is needed today. She is committed to the creation of Syntropic enterprises as ubiquitous.

To learn more visit www.syntropic.world

P.S. Whenever you’re ready… here are 7 ways Christine and Team Syntropic might help you steward your enterprise for a world with a future.

1. Purchase the ebook, Speak the Truth for just $10. Our most important work is in human to human relationships. Often the greatest pain of our lives is when these relationships at home and in our work break down. This is a powerful tool that has restored the human connection in many of the most broken relationships. The 7 step process covered in Speak the Truth has been delivered to thousands around the world in The Dare to Care Workshop. www.syntropic.world/speakthetruth

2. Masterclass – Syntropic Enterprise Design and Strategy. The masterclass seeds a new school of business and enterprise design for a world with a future. For more, www.syntropic.world/masterclass

3. Enterprise Architecture Launchpad – a four day intensive experience for enterprise teams of up to twenty to shift towards becoming a Syntropic Enterprise. For more information, www.syntropic.world/launchpad

4. Unplanning Obsolescence One Day Strategy Session – a team experience to consider a whole systems approach to strategy through becoming a Syntropic Enterprise. For more information, www.syntropic.world/unplanningobsolescence

5. Off-site retreats for Steward leaders in the process of deep change. Be this change personal, at the enterprise level, or both. Rather than a “health retreat/spa” step into a space that enables both self refection and other refection towards the fullest expression of your Pattern Integrity in the world. www.syntropic.world/retreat

6. Warm Data Labs – to consider a trans-contextual response to complex problems, evoking the collective brilliance available when we look at the whole system by design. www.syntropic.world/warmdatalab

7. Dare to Care workshop – How to speak the radical truth with compassion. Delivered to thousands of people around the world, the Dare to Care workshop starts with the premise that I need to care more about you than what you think about me.

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