The very best of my life has been the unplanned

In a few days I will celebrate 60 revolutions around the sun. A part of me is in shock. How did that happen? When did that happen? 

The true part of me feels more alive, more coherent, more whole, true and beautiful than I have ever felt. And yes, way more sexy than I have ever felt. 

I determined somewhere in my twenties to not live with regret. I also vowed to not prostitute my soul, my integrity, for a life that was not aligned to my core values. This was a bone deep commitment, which cost much in NO’s, including a glamorous life on the arm of someone as the trophy wife, a no to the easy path to money through work that bothered me deeply as a violation of what I felt right…

We humans are a complex bundle of all-sorts. All of us have been heart broken. All of us have struggled with much. Our bank account is no reflection of happiness or health of our mind body being.

The big three… love, money and sex test us all. Too much, too little, not good enough. 

The very best of my life has been the unplanned. Even dare I say, that which I have not coveted. 

In my youth, yearning for money, I found the work of my life long mentor, Bucky Fuller. Only now, three plus decades later, do I understand.

In my thirties, while married, I became an accidental mother. The greatest role of my life. 

In my later thirties and forties, I tried again for love. I learned about depression, suicide, and a choice to live and die through a relationship with a man who struggled every day to stay on Earth. He lost that battle. I tried internet dating, and decided that I would rather be single, happy and celibate, than settle for average, and the bumpy ride of navigating romance.

In that decision, voluntary celibacy and single hood, which lasted thirteen years, I went through my own dark night. At one point my longing was to fall asleep and never wake up. Many of you have tasted this place.

Every belief I had, everything that had held me upright, disintegrated. A good friend, recognising the signs, reached out. 

In choosing to put my feet on the ground and say yes again to ALL life, I made powerful decisions about how this life I was now committed to was going to be lived.

Many of the threads the same, but amplified. Super high volume integrity. Super high volume application of the work of Bucky. And no longer seeking, searching for a relationship. Loving me, life and the whole mishmash. 

And so, in my 58th year I accidentally and oh-so-surprisingly found love. Not the love of my youth, bumpy, fractured, tentative, or the love of my mid years, grasping and mildly desperate, but the love of a women so completely comfortable in her own skin…happy with her singleness. 

In my 58th year I also found the clarity of the work my life path had been directing me to, often with so much confusion, frustration, and existential anxiety. 

It is no surprise to me that my love and my work arrived simultaneously. Indeed it is no surprise that the fruits of my life path have taken so very long to ripen. 

But ripen they have. Oh, so very ripe. It was worth every single step.

In my 58th year, having love of such natural and beautiful ease, where we truly feel like we have found ourselves after a very long separation, arrive, has humbled me and filled me with wonder. Wonder at the crazy, tangled but inevitable path that is integrity lived.

It has only become better. Work, love, life….words that I longed to speak for so many years in my youth…’I am so lucky.’ So grateful. So filled with awe.

Photo taken August 26th 2020

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About Christine McDougall

Creating a world where Syntropic Enterprises are the way we do business. Leaving everything better.

As the Founder and Chief Steward of Syntropic.world – Christine works with leaders and enterprises globally who have a commitment to being the pioneers of enterprise change. Christine has the ability to completely re-imagine business, its role in our world, and its potential for a future for all humans. She experiences a deeper level of truth through applying synergetics (Buckminster Fuller’s anticipatory design science) and the working laws of Universe to enterprise design and human co-ordination. She has a way of articulating this so others can see it as well. Christine questions the most basic assumptions that drive our complex systems and can map that back to what is needed today. To learn more visit www.syntropic.world

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