The architecture of trust

Begins with the promises we make to ourselves.

If we cannot keep the promises with ourselves we are unlikely to keep the promises we make with others.

There is a vast difference in using words such as ‘I will” and “I would like to..”

“I would like to” is a wish. “I will” is a commitment. 

When we “I will” and do not…we break self-trust. Do this many times and we build the inner experience that has little to no reliability…and, as a consequence, little to no self-esteem and regard.

“I will do this..” Needs to be our word, our commitment…as a first step to trust.

We might then bring this into the world of the other…You can trust my word. I say this, and I do what I say.

If life happens and I can no longer do this, I will notify you as soon as possible and we can renegotiate. If I fail in my doing, I will own it.

Consistency of words to actions builds trust. The ability to be specific, speak without hidden or covert agendas, interrogate assumptions, manage expectations…these are all tools of trust.

The architecture of trust lives in our precision of words, communication flows and intention. It can be designed into any team as an ongoing architecture for the development of all team members.

November 2nd 2019

Photo taken November 1st 2019, by Tony