Two approaches – abundant of spirit, or critical, righteous and the prima-donna
Two approaches
One.
Yesterday I saw myself in less than favourable colours. I attended an event and I walked in with preconceived judgment that was sourced from some field of my old default pattern of superiority. “I know better.” This approach shut down a whole world of possibility. I squeezed myself into a narrow field of righteousness. And criticism. Exactly the way I had been complaining about how others have been showing up in my life of late. It was ugly, and I am not proud of myself. (Hint: what we complain about might well be the behaviour we are manifesting. Ouch! In my case, oh, too true.)
Two.
Gratitude and Generosity. Walking into a space from a place of gratitude…I am here, I have been invited, people have worked hard to pull this together, other people care to be here. I might not agree with the what, how or even the who; however, I am grateful to be asked. And I might have some value to offer. Even if that value is to offer ways forward that might improve the outcome. To do this from a place of generosity, grounded in gratitude.
I think about the first one. About people of some ‘celebrity’ who show up from a place of demand. The Prima Donnas. Not happy unless they get what they think they deserve, even if they do deserve it.
And I think about option two. No matter what their status of celebrity they are infinitely grateful and infinitely generous. Not door mats, not push-overs. Clear with their boundaries, yet radiating abundance of spirit.
Abundance of spirit.
When we meet people coming from that place, it is like a cool drink on a hot day.
No question…I want to hang with these people. I want to be these people.
That does not mean I cannot be discerning. When in the face of option one, I can remove myself without the need to be superior and righteous, or frustrated that my ‘skill and superiority’ have not been seen.
More than anything, I continue to practice being option two. Grounded effortlessly in the certainty of who I am and the value I have without the need, generated from lack, to impose my righteous superiority on anyone. To constantly be in gratitude…be generous and abundant of spirit.
