Standing even against relentless criticism
Almost every human I have met has before them the choice between the path that calls to them but is filled with uncertainty, risk, and exposure, and the safe path. We are faced with this choice every single day in one form or another.
When we take the risky, exposing path, then we face everything that we fear. This includes shame, failure, rejection, ridicule and isolation.
Our world is full of bullies and critics. They are mostly prevalent in the cowardly spaces of social media, where they can stay anonymous.
When we step out, really step out, there will be critics. There will be bullies. Know this. Step out anyway. Step out because you live a life of principle and values.
As the fabulous Brené Brown says… unless the critic is in the arena as well, do not listen to them. They know not what they do. Give them zero time and attention. They are not qualified to speak.
For the bullies, they need you to be affected, for without affect, they cannot bully. They need you to respond…to break…Ignore them and be free.
For the critics in the arena, make a space for them. Invite them in. Listen to them. You do not have to agree with them. They have something that may be valuable. Or not. Also, invite the friends that really matter, those who will tell you that your speech really sucked, and here is what you can do next time, plus bravo for getting up and speaking.
If we are terrified of the critic and bully, we may never step up. Then they win. You lose.
Don’t make that the thing that stops you.
When we care enough about something, when we live a principle-based life, silence is an act of self-betrayal.
Written March 3rd 2014
Published June 9th 2026. Photo taken June 8th 2026
